For most people, disagreements can create anxiety. Anxiety leads to
conflict if not managed by both communicative partners. Conflicts of situations where others feel
there is inequity in communication or their communication partners are not predictable
and responsive.
The 3R’s of communication are essential to preventing conflicts
from arising. Effective communications
and conflict resolutions are based upon trust, reciprocity and time.
How we respond to others will support cooperation and healthy interactions.
How we respond to others will support cooperation and healthy interactions.
Respect – adults and children alike wish to
be treated with respect. When communications
are not balanced, there will instances of disengagement or discord. Treat others in an equitable fashion. This does not mean that everyone is treated the same, but we follow consistent processes when communicating with others. We must strive to understand the motivation and needs of others. We must also respond in a consistent and predictable fashion, while communicating our needs. We can not assume that others can read our minds.
Response – we will communicate better with individuals
care to listen to our concerns or anticipate our needs in an appropriate and
timely fashion. For adults and children
alike, we want to demonstrate active and empathetic listening skills. It is also important be timely in our
reactions. If we cannot respond immediately,
our communicative partners must be provided with timelines when they can expect
a response.
Relationships – are the attachments that we form
with others. Sometimes relationships are
voluntary, such as parents or social groups.
Other times, the relationships that we are in are involuntary, such a
business or collaborative partnerships. To ensure that we are able to communicate effectively
we must always be cognizant of the purpose of the collaborations – focus in the
things that we have in common.
Nonviolent Communication (Links)
YouTube. (2010). The basics of nonviolent communication.
Retrieved from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-129JLTjkQ
•YouTube. (2006). Nonviolent communication, Part 1, Marshall
Rosenberg. Retrieved from
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dpk5Z7GIFs&playnext=1&list=PL0386DE8E4E6987CF
•YouTube. (2006). Nonviolent communication, Part 2, Marshall
Rosenberg. Retrieved from
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbgxFgAN7_w&playnext=1&list=PL0386DE8E4E6987CF
•YouTube. (2006). Nonviolent communication, Part 3, Marshall
Rosenberg. Retrieved from
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8fbxPAXBPE&playnext=1&list=PL0386DE8E4E6987CF
Those supporting children and families
The Three R”s : Gateway to Infant and Toddler learning. Retrieved March 30 from http://www.southernearlychildhood.org/upload/file/SECA%20Radio/The%203%20R's.pd
Resources
Goat and Cat. Retrieved March 30, 2014 from http://www.berkeleypr.co.uk/Blog/the-importance-of-PR-journalist-relationships
Respect, Retrieved March 30, 2014 from http://www.lovethispic.com/image/36524/respect-peoples-feelings
Respond. Retrieved March 30, 2014 from http://moonlady.com/living-life-consciously-w-larry-phillips-do-you-react-or-respond/
Relationships. Retrieved March 30, 2014 http://www.beingencouraged.com/2013/11/27/thankfulness-value-relationships-experiences/
Hi Barbara,
ReplyDeleteNonviolence is the essence of treating all people with respect. When we treat people with respect it is returned to us. This allows everyone to share their viewpoints without feeling they are being judged for the way they feel about the subject matter. The 3'R and nonviolence walk hand in hand and together in the early childhood field they can help teachers to manage their classroom atmosphere much smoother. There will always be conflict, but it is how we manage it that makes the difference between violence or nonviolence. Wonderful blog.
Joyce Galloway